Episode 91
Never Want to Celebrate Holidays or Major Milestones
It's our final episode of season five, and the question we’re answering today is “Wouldn’t it just be easier if we were all the same?” Okay, that’s not exactly true, but we are talking about navigating differences within your partnership, especially when kids are part of the picture. The question starts off with a disagreement about how to mark holidays and important life events, which gets us wondering about the role of ritual and tradition in each of these partner's lives growing up, and the meaning they’ve taken from that into their lives together. What are the needs each of them is expressing inside of the strategies they are disagreeing about? If we explore those needs, we can start to get at all the implicit learnings that are coming in with them, transforming the argument into a creative collaboration.
We’re so glad you’ve stuck around with us for this season of the Why Does My Partner Podcast! We’ll be back soon with more content for you, but in the meantime, if you’d like to go deeper, our upcoming workshop Integrating Mind and Heart: A Brain Savvy Workshop That Transforms Your Relationships is happening September 22-24th! It's coming up fast, but there's still time register, so check it out now at whydoesmypartner.com/events.
Quotes:
"Separate the needs that are getting met from the strategy that you’re using to meet them."
"Some things we learn about the way the world works aren’t learned like a thought, they’re learned by being emotionally known."
"The conscious brain is not the efficient brain."
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