Episode 24

Expect Sex In The Morning

What is sex about?  What is it for?  Many things, of course—pleasure and connection just being two of them.  So what happens when there is an expectation or a mismatch in preferences?  Can we talk about it with openness and curiosity? Or do we get pouty, irritable or retaliatory?  It is inevitable that there will be times when our partners want sex when we are not in the mood or vice versa.  When that happens, it is important to make the distinction that this rejection is not a rejection of the person.  It’s just not what feels right in this particular moment.  But in order to do that, there is a lot of checking in with self and sometimes fun, sometimes awkward conversations with your partner that need to happen.  Regardless of what it is you want--more, less, or different--this is the way to get it.  That’s what Jules, Vickey and Rebecca are talking about this week on the podcast.  

If you’re interested in diving deeper, listen to Rebecca’s interview with Emily Nagoski over on the Connectfulness Practice podcast at: https://connectfulness-practice.captivate.fm/episode/how-stress-affects-sex-with-emily-nagoski

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About the Podcast

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Why Does My Partner
Answering questions from people who want help in relationships.

About your hosts

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Jules Shore

Juliane (Jules) Taylor Shore LMFT, LPC, SEP is an author, teacher and therapist specializing in integrative therapy for trauma recovery and couples relationships. She specializes in teaching integrative therapy and Interpersonal Neurobiology internationally. She is also the author of Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Empowered and Connected. You can work with her in small group workshops for those who want to do deep work on their boundaries, relationships and well-being. She also offers intensives in a one on one format for adult individuals and couples. Find out more about her work at julianetaylorshore.com.
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Rebecca Wong

Rebecca Wong LCSW, SEP is a relational trauma therapist and educator. She helps promote experiential learning brain states that conjure new possibilities, integrate felt sense knowings, deepen authenticity, increase trust, and develop practices to support generational wellness. Rebecca specializes in offering experiential relationship intensives for those seeking profound shifts.
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Vickey Easa

Vickey Easa LICSW has been a therapist since 2008, adding in Relational Life Therapy in 2016. She loves spreading the information of Relational Health to anyone who will listen; professionally AND personally. She sees adults, both individuals, and couples, and recently began public speaking on the topic of Healthy Self Esteem. No pets yet; her husband, two children, and watching TV keep her busy enough. Learn more about Vickey’s work at vickeyeasa.com