Episode 47

Why Can’t I Decide To Stay Or Go?

Have you ever been stuck in a place of indecision over what to do in a relationship?  So many of us have.  And for living in such a relational culture as we do, we aren’t offered much modeling or wise guidance.  Often, we absorb messages like “when they’re the one, you just know” and “when they’re the right person, even the hard stuff is easy.”  We beg to differ!  These adages might be true for some, but the reality is they’re just not helpful for the rest of us, or worse, they can cause us a lot of confusion, fear and pain.  We might think that by staying stuck in indecision we are avoiding trouble or repercussions that could be caused by one of two options, but actually, staying in a place of indecision is a third option and a psychological place all its own.  This week, Rebecca, Vickey and Jules explore the costs and rewards of each option, when staying in indecision is the right thing to do (yes, even indecision has its purpose!) and a couple of exercises you can try at home to glean more information to help you make a choice.

About the Podcast

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Why Does My Partner
Answering questions from people who want help in relationships.

About your hosts

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Jules Shore

Juliane (Jules) Taylor Shore LMFT, LPC, SEP is an author, teacher and therapist specializing in integrative therapy for trauma recovery and couples relationships. She specializes in teaching integrative therapy and Interpersonal Neurobiology internationally. She is also the author of Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Empowered and Connected. You can work with her in small group workshops for those who want to do deep work on their boundaries, relationships and well-being. She also offers intensives in a one on one format for adult individuals and couples. Find out more about her work at julianetaylorshore.com.
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Rebecca Wong

Rebecca Wong LCSW, SEP is a relational trauma therapist and educator. She helps promote experiential learning brain states that conjure new possibilities, integrate felt sense knowings, deepen authenticity, increase trust, and develop practices to support generational wellness. Rebecca specializes in offering experiential relationship intensives for those seeking profound shifts.
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Vickey Easa

Vickey Easa LICSW has been a therapist since 2008, adding in Relational Life Therapy in 2016. She loves spreading the information of Relational Health to anyone who will listen; professionally AND personally. She sees adults, both individuals, and couples, and recently began public speaking on the topic of Healthy Self Esteem. No pets yet; her husband, two children, and watching TV keep her busy enough. Learn more about Vickey’s work at vickeyeasa.com