Episode 30

Cut Me Off

When it comes to the topic of interjecting or cutting someone off in a conversation, we all know which side we tend to fall on.  Some of us are serial cutter-offers.  Some of us are the ones getting cut off.  For those in the latter group, it can be incredibly frustrating at times.  We might feel like we aren’t being listened to or that we are being dismissed.  But for those doing the cutting off…  Well, there’s not always a clear simple reason for why they do it.  In fact, there are a lot of reasons why someone might be cutting you off ranging from the neurological to the cultural, and some of these reasons can sound contradictory.  So how do we really know what’s going on and what can we do about it?  In this episode, Rebecca, Jules and Vickey talk about all the reasons why someone might cut another person off in conversation, even if—or especially when—they really care about what’s being said and offer some thoughts on how to shift behaviors for better conversations.

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Why Does My Partner
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Jules Shore

Juliane (Jules) Taylor Shore LMFT, LPC, SEP is an author, teacher and therapist specializing in integrative therapy for trauma recovery and couples relationships. She specializes in teaching integrative therapy and Interpersonal Neurobiology internationally. She is also the author of Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Empowered and Connected. You can work with her in small group workshops for those who want to do deep work on their boundaries, relationships and well-being. She also offers intensives in a one on one format for adult individuals and couples. Find out more about her work at julianetaylorshore.com.
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Rebecca Wong

Rebecca Wong LCSW, SEP is a relational trauma therapist and educator. She helps promote experiential learning brain states that conjure new possibilities, integrate felt sense knowings, deepen authenticity, increase trust, and develop practices to support generational wellness. Rebecca specializes in offering experiential relationship intensives for those seeking profound shifts.
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Vickey Easa

Vickey Easa LICSW has been a therapist since 2008, adding in Relational Life Therapy in 2016. She loves spreading the information of Relational Health to anyone who will listen; professionally AND personally. She sees adults, both individuals, and couples, and recently began public speaking on the topic of Healthy Self Esteem. No pets yet; her husband, two children, and watching TV keep her busy enough. Learn more about Vickey’s work at vickeyeasa.com