Episode 31
Not Get We’re Not Actually Connecting
We believe everyone who's ever been in a relationship has experienced this question! Maybe it's a lack of observation about the dynamics between you. Maybe they do know, but you don't know that they know. Really though, it’s probably just that you have different connection styles and haven't yet decoded the different ways each of you experience what connection is. Jules takes us deep into brain science to help us understand how our history-colored glasses affect our experiences of what connection is. And once again, we're encouraging you to have meta-conversations. Observe what connection feels like to each of you. And share that map with one another so you can navigate your differences. This really is an exploration of how you both experience the world differently. This practice of observing your own mind is the key to being in healthy relationships, especially under varying degrees of stress when you have to have enough safety for your brain to stay integrated.
And we also talk about what we’re actually looking for when we talk about connection: relational joy. When you dare to rock the boat with your partner, maybe you’re actually seeking a conversation about how you're co-creating moments of relational joy! Take note of what’s working that you want more of and how you're both going to make more of those moments happen.
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